Beauty
Courtesy of Pepper M. Martin
7 "Compliments" People Say About Your Hair That Are Insulting AF
Seriously?
by Pepper M. Martin
As a woman rocking my natural hair, I've learned to embrace and love my kinky curls. It’s pretty safe to assume that I love my hair and I know this maysound a tab bit vain, but I do. I’m very protective of my kinks. But for some, falling in love with their hair might be difficult due to a history of receivingcompliments about hair that are insults. Or as I like tocall them, backhand compliments.
For many people in today's society, insulting others is like a past time. Their targets are usually the oneswho go against the mainstream grain or make up their own rules to display theirindividuality. And because the backhander doesn't know how to say something nice,they sugar coat their nastiness in the form of a compliment.That's right there's a Backhand Brittany or Bianca lurking on Instagram or Facebook with twiddling fingers ready to throw someshade. But there can also be those who don’t intend to sound mean, it can just come out wrong. Even with good intentions, some comments can still be pretty hateful and shady. And if so you can always beat them at the punch. Just allow me to give you the heads ups with these seven "compliments" about hair that are insults.
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"Your Weave/Wig Looks Amazing!"
Translation: That can't be your hair. It must be a weave.
Seriously, there is no shame in my game. I wear weaves, wigs, and braids in my hair. I love to mix my look up when I want to mix it up. Not because some has suggested it.
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"You’re So Brave For Wearing Your Hair Like That."
Translation: I could never wear my hair like that.
That's good, because I would never ask anyone to wear their hair like mine or anyone else. So if it's brave to embrace my nature hair texture and rock it, I will take that. Thank you!
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"This Hairstyle Make You Look Younger"
Translation: Your last hairstyle aged you. You look much younger.
I've never been a fan of this backhand compliment, because every woman on the face of earth loves when a new style make her look and feel younger. Trust me on a bad day you will still look younger than the person who slide this so called compliment in on you.
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"Your Hair Is So Nice. You Must Be Mixed."
Translation: You can't have good hair and not be mixed.
Historically, this statement is true. I'm sure my genealogy might reveal other nationalities within my gene pool, but this is none of your business. My hair is nice period.