The Appropriate Men's Attire For Every Occasion (2024)

These days, when we hear the phrase “dress code” we’re most likely to associate itwith workplace rules.

A lot of jobs still have written guidelines for employee attire,at varying degrees of strictness.

Much rarer are dress codes for social events.

These written requests for attendeeattire are usually only one or two words long, meant to be printed on an invitationand understood by all the potential guests.

Unfortunately, universal understanding of social dress codes is going the way ofcursive handwriting: it has an old-fashioned appeal to some people, but most of usdon’t bother with it anymore.

So if you’ve been invited to an event with a dress code — or you’re planning an eventand you want to request a specific sort of attire from your guests — look no further!

Formal Dress Code – White Tie

The phrase “formal attire” is badly misunderstood in modern society.

Formal attire does not mean suits and ties! It is a substantially higher dress code,requiring clothes that most men don’t own.

If you request formal attire on aninvitation (and you don’t belong to an extremely wealthy and upper class set),understand that you’re probably asking the majority of your guests to go throughthe rental process.

Formal wear for men changes depending on the time of day: in daylight hours, itmeans morning dress with a tailcoat and vest, while at night it means white tie.

Both of these are extremely strict dress codes.

It would be unusual (and a bitpresumptuous) to request full formal attire for a personal event. Most white-tie affairs are diplomatic events, or high-formality award ceremonies and theoccasional British sporting event.

Unless you’re a high society heir or heiressthrowing a bash at a New York hotel, it’s probably too strict for your wedding orbirthday party.

Semi-Formal Dress Code – Black Tie

Don’t let the diminutive phrasing fool you — semi-formal attire is still the strictestdress code most of us will wear in our lives.

Like formal wear, semi-formal attire changes based on time of day. In the eveningit is the familiar black tie (tuxedo) ensemble, while in the daytime the stroller (arelaxed alternative to morning dress) is appropriate.

Most modern guests will not be aware of the distinction. Tuxedos at daytime eventsare a depressingly common occurrence nowadays. If you, as the host or hostess,wish men to come attired in strollers, it may be worth your while to print out aphrase such as “Daytime Semi-formal (Strollers for Men)” in the “Attire” or “Dress Code” section of your invitation. It’s a bit clunky, but it prevents confusion.

Some men own their own tuxedos, but for the most part this is another dress codethat will force attendees to rent attire. Use it sparingly, and only for events of greatsignificance like weddings. It would be very unusual for anyone outside of the jet setto throw more than one or two semi-formal events in his or her lifetime!

If you receive a semi-formal invitation, give yourself plenty of time for the rentalprocess. Expect it to take several weeks from your first fitting and outfit selectionfor the clothes to arrive and be adjusted.

Be firm with the sales staff, and make it clear that you are only interested in trueblack tie (or daytime semi-formal) attire — these days, most of the offerings at rentaloutlets are cartoon-colored costumes for high school proms and novelty weddings,not real formal and semi-formal wear.

Business Dress Code

A “business” or “business dress” code means one thing for men: matched suits.

If an invitation has specifically requested business attire, it’s best to err on theside of formality and wear a dark, solid colored or pinstriped suit.

Pair it with awhite dress shirt, a conservative tie, and black leather oxfords, and you’re — no punintended — in business.

There is a certain amount of leeway at social events, particularly daytime ones, soif you prefer a lighter gray suit or a dark brown one, those are acceptable. For themost part, though, “business dress” means the more formal end of men’s suits.

If, on the other hand, the invitation simply says “suits and ties for men” orsomething along those lines, “social suits” with lighter colors or more vivid patternsare acceptable.

This isn’t strictly speaking a dress code, but it is a request you willsee from time to time on invitations, particularly to dressed-up but light-heartedaffairs like brunches and church outings.

Business Casual or Dress Casual

There are a number of variations on this phrase, all of which mean basically thesame thing. For men, jackets are still preferred, but not required, and not as part of amatched suit.

The most conventional dress casual outfit for a man is a navy blue blazer with lightto medium gray slacks or khakis. (This is such a common dressed-down alternativeto full business attire that it’s sometimes called “the California suit.”)

Once the word “casual” is on the invitation, however, a fair amount of flexibility ispermitted. Blazers or sports jackets are the dressiest look within the code, whilesweaters or dress shirts without a top layer are more dressed-down.

In general, you’re better off showing up with a jacket and tie, and then stripping oneor both off if you find yourself too overdressed. It’s easy to dress a blazer or sportsjacket and slacks down, but hard to dress a plain shirt up.

At the bare minimum, a “business casual” invitation still requires slacks or khakis (not jeans) and a collared shirt, as well as leather dress shoes and socks to match thetrousers.

Casual Dress

A “casual attire” invitation is mostly open ended, but there is still the expectation ofdressing up for a social event.

Neckties are definitely not needed, but a casual jacketcould still be worn.

Similarly, jeans are acceptable if the invitation says “casual,” but they should bedark, fitted jeans, not plain work jeans or anything with rips and tears.

Leathershoes and collared shirts are still preferable.

The “casual” code tells you that the hosts aren’t putting any stock in formality.

Theywant it to be a relaxed events where guests can be themselves. All well and good —but you should still look like you made an effort! It’s just polite.

Understanding “Optional” Dress Codes

Occasionally dress codes will come with the word “optional” attached. This is mostlydone at the higher levels of formality, i.e. “black tie optional.”

What that means is that the hosts are planning on wearing the listed code, andencourage guests to do likewise if they wish. It’s a way of dressing the event upwithout requiring that every single attendee meet a high standard that mightrequire rental clothing or expensive purchases.

With an optional dress code, it is of course always appropriate to meet the listedcode (but not exceed it — you wouldn’t wear white tie to a “black tie optional”event).

Alternatively, you can wear a close approximation at a slightly lower level offormality. For example, if the event is “black tie optional” and you don’t want to renta tuxedo, you can instead wear a dark business suit with a plain white shirt and avery reserved necktie. That gives the same general impression of severe formality asa tuxedo, but without the need for exotic attire.

A slight variation is the “preferred” dress code: like “optional,” this leaves it up tothe guests, but with the indication that the hosts would like guests to dress to themaximum standard if at all possible. “Preferred” leaves a graceful out for guests whoabsolutely can’t meet the dress code, while “optional” leaves it up to their tastes andpreferences entirely.

These are good codes for hosts to use when they’re indulging in a very dressed-upappearance, but want to make the event more accessible to friends and relatives.

Invitations without Dress Codes

So what do you do if you receive an invitation that doesn’t list a dress code?

The simplest suggestion is always to ask the hosts. Don’t be embarrassed, especiallyin this modern world of e-mails and text messages, to shoot the host with whom youare most familiar a short note saying “how dressed up do you want people at theevent?”

If you don’t feel comfortable doing that, ask around among other attendees. Andif you truly have no one you can ask, consider the time and setting: evening attireshould generally be darker and simpler than daytime, outdoor settings are morecasual than indoor, and so on.

Always err on the side of being a bit overdressed. As we’ve said before, it’s very easyto take off a necktie or shed a jacket and become less formal, but if you only showedup with a shirt and slacks there’s no way for you to become dressier.

Finally, in rare cases you may run into an invitation where the listed dress codedoesn’t seem accurate — for example, I was once invited to a wedding that requesteda “formal” dress code, but I knew from speaking with the groom that he was onlywearing a business suit. Since the hosts will always be wearing the most formalinterpretation of the event’s dress code, I knew that meant they only wanted nice-looking suits, not true formal wear.

It’s a bit of an awkward situation, but in a case like that you should dress to matchyour hosts, rather than adhering to the written instructions and drawing attentionto their error. Don’t even mention it to them — once the invitations are sent, there’snothing they can do about it anyway!

And there you have it. That’s all you need to know about dressing to meet socialdress codes as a man. Easy, wasn’t it?

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