4 min read · Feb 4, 2023
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The definition of polygamy appears to be general knowledge, but with an intentional observation — it isn’t! Allow yourself to consider my thoughts.
Isn't it obvious? The practice of marrying multiple spouses. This is its word definition, yet not its true definition.
Monogamy: the practice of marrying a single spouse is perhaps the most preferred type of relationship dynamics and usually isn’t difficult one to point out, but there exists a common problem: Infidelity.
Infidelity — by no doubt a falling star that destroys the planets of many monogamous relationships seeks out a culprit. A thing, an ideal or natural disposition to which cowards, liars and the unfaithful (man or woman) seeks to use in vindicating themselves.
Many men by extension have claimed to in-fact be polygamous (right after being discovered to fault on their promise of monogamy). While many others claim it to be a natural disposition for men; hence the saying “men are polygamous by nature”.
No one cares deeply for a woman’s reason to marry herself simultaneously to more men and perhaps there is good reason.
Polygamy is not the desire for more partners. Men are not naturally polygamous, neither is a woman. Everyone desires more.
Interestingly, polygamy only does apply to the married — a bachelor(rette) or a person in a monogamous marriage can’t be polygamous — if anything, you’re promiscuous.
Also, those who after beguiling another on the grounds of monogamy, only to then break their vows by taking another are liars!
Polygamy is the maturity in mind, human force and resources to take responsibility for more (spouses)— However, it goes a step further. It doesn’t hide behind the mask of monogamy.
With this realization, all men cannot be polygamous, extensively showing all men by nature are not polygamous.
Polygamy is an ideology and not a natural disposition.
You can be all these things (mature in mind, full of life force and resourceful to take care of more)but once you hide under the promise of monogamy, you become promiscuous rather than polygamous.
As a clear distinction: Polygamy is not an open relationship.
Polygamy (polyandry for women) applies across, as it is an ideology. Yet, it is a small wonder as to why it is generally accepted for men to be polygamous than it is for women to be polyandrous.
Observe your thoughts with the following premise:
A man is known by everyone to be involved with three women. Should all three women become pregnant, the community can judge who is responsible for the women. Case settled.
In contrast, a woman is known by the community to be involved with three men. Should she become pregnant, it becomes a puzzle as to who is truly responsible for her. (Don’t be lazy in thought and say “why can’t they all be?”).
(Science can offer an extension to our misery by telling who is responsible for her but the ideology begins to crack)
Certainly (with the help of science), we can tell who is responsible for her, to which it can only be one of the three men.
Now, what will be the desire of the other men towards our woman?
Will they dedicate their time, strength and resources to protecting and providing for her, seeing they are consequently not responsible for her current condition?
By natural disposition they won’t be inclined to take such responsibilities (if you puzzle as to their natural disposition, consider the gross reaction of people having to be responsible for offspring they didn’t birth).
Instead they’ll seek another who is more desirable and without the puzzle of a pregnancy.
(However, don’t be tempted to begin to puzzle over why men really desire women or what women provide men within the context of romantic relationships. You will lose yourself to foolish ramblings.)
Let every person accept the love they believe they deserve. — ÌLÈMRÉ
Of course this is an overly simple narrative — but nature isn’t difficult to understand with a bit of common sense.
No, it isn’t.
Kings and men of substance are accepted in society to be polygamous — but you must be either to even begin to consider the idea. To be neither and still choose polygamy is foolishness.
(Don’t be lazy to think a man of substance must be monetary rich. This is not a prerequisite, however, financial abundance does help by a gross margin).
