Being nervous on a date is normal, but when there's chemistry, those nerves actually feel good, says Winter. “Perhaps you're speaking too quickly, giggling more than normal, or alternating between moments of feeling shy, then demonstrative. Bottom line: Your emotional reactions are heightened and obvious.” She warns that, after the fact, you may feel a little worried that you were too open about your attraction, but says you shouldn't be. Instead, just enjoy the experience. “This is the affect your date had upon you, and you had upon them. It's a delicious form of being unsettled,” Winter concludes.
The reality is that when you and your date are feeling that spark of connection, you'll know. So, trust yourself and your instincts. However, it should be noted that having chemistry doesn’t guarantee that your date will turn into something more meaningful — or that a date without that instant spark won’t pan out. Which is why dating coach Erika Ettin tells Elite Daily not to worry too much about having or not having a spark on a date. “I see that people place too much emphasis on whether they have a ‘spark’ on the first date and dismiss someone if this feeling, whatever it means to you, isn't there. I encourage everyone, if you want to have just one more conversation with this person, to go on a second date. You have nothing to lose,” she says. She’s right. But still, when you do feel that spark, don’t be afraid to just enjoy the experience.
