How Low Self-Esteem is Causing You to Feel Unsafe and Lonely (2024)

There is a close correlation between low self-esteem, feeling unsafe and loneliness.

These three things are going hand in hand causing one another and feeding one from another.

Being lonely carries with it a social stigma.

Having a low self-esteem can make you isolate yourself: “I better not go out or meet my friends because I’m not good enough for them.”

A low self-esteem and loneliness will make you feel unsafe: “no one cares about me.”

Feeling safe is one of the most important needs a person has. And feeling safe doesn’t come from living in a bunker or having the latest security system, or carrying a gun. Feeling safe comes from the people around you.
You need to have a soft place to fall; you need to know that people around you love you enough to care about you and if needed will care for you.

The good news is that starting to solve any of these three issues, will automatically have a positive effect on all three. The change and the quality of life are dramatic and immediate.

So let’s see, one by one, what can you do to get out of this cycle.

Loneliness.

If you are lonely, most probably you’ve got here by isolating yourself or allowing someone else to isolate you from the rest of the world.
Loneliness comes gradually, and you will not know that is happening until you just notice that there is no one around you.
You are not felt out by your friends and loved ones because you are not good enough for them or because they don’t love you or because they don’t want to spend time with you.
What happens is that every time they invite you somewhere and you say no, you are sending a message: “I don’t want to spend time with you.”

Plus, any relationship you have needs maintenance.
Get “out” of the internet and get “into” the real world as much as possible. Keep in touch with people that are important to you. Make them feel important and when you meet/ or communicate, make them feel good about themselves.

A few tips to improve your safety feelings.

Have a talk with your loved ones.
Delegate who is responsible for you in case something happens. You could believe that people don’t want such responsibilities, however, those people that really love you will take it because they will see it as an honor and duty.

Discuss hypothetical scenarios with your friends and loved ones and ask them what would they do if you are in those situations. You could be surprised. You don’t know what you don’t know.
Be willing to offer back what you’re asking for.