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Eyes can be a powerful tool when it comes to seduction. There are several ways you can use your eyes to display attraction and get someone interested in you. Make initial eye contact and, from there, make the most of your gaze.

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    Take the initiative to make eye contact. If you want to seduce someone, do not be shy. Take the initiative to make the initial eye contact. This displays confidence, which many people find attractive.

    • People tend to be interested in those who are interested in them. If you're making the effort to meet someone's gaze from across the room, this will intrigue them. Try to make eye contact first rather than waiting to be noticed.
    • Look for cues that another person may be interested in you. Use this an opportunity to make initial eye contact. Cues can be subtle, like someone giving a quick glance in your direction. Women may sometimes run their fingers through their hair to convey attraction.
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    Start with a couple of brief glances. If you're shy, start things off with a couple of brief glances. A double take definitely conveys interest. Try glances at someone briefly, looking away, and then glancing again.[1] This can show a potential partner that you're attracted to them and want their attention.

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    Watch someone from the corner of your eyes. In addition to making direct eye contact, watching someone from the corner of your eyes can be helpful. If you've not yet had an opportunity to start a conversation, simply watch someone from the corner of your eyes for a few minutes.

    • Spend 5 or 10 minutes side eyeing someone you find attractive. Be cool and do make it too obvious. See if this person is looking at you as well.[2]
    • It can help to side eye someone while laughing at something a friend said. Laughter is infectious and can be attractive to someone you're trying to seduce.[3]
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    Smile. A warm smile is conveyed by your eyes as well as your mouth. If someone meets your gaze from across the room, smile. A genuine smile can show someone you're friendly and would not mind being approached. Hold a person's gaze for a few moments and then offer a smile.

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    Match eye contact with confident body language. Use your body to convey confidence in addition to your eyes. Matching a confident gaze with a confident helps bolster attraction. Keep your body relaxed and comfortable. Try to avoid tensing muscles. Stand up straight with your shoulders back slightly.

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    Give someone a seductive look when they smile back. If you smile at someone, wait for a smile back. When the person returns your smile, give him or her a seductive look. Use your eyes to show your sexual interest.

    • Making a curved grin with your mouth, glance the person up and down. This indicates you're checking out their body and are measuring your attraction to them.[4]
    • To show the person you like what you see, make eye contact and offer another brief smile.[5]
    • If you want to be more flirty, try winking at the other person.[6]
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    Keep up what you're doing, but occasionally make eye contact. After giving "the look" continue talking to your friends. Keep smiling, laughing, and engaging in conversation. However, every once in awhile look back at the person you are trying to seduce. Occasional brief glances are an invitation for the person to approach you.[7]

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    Seal the deal with eye contact after making conversation. Even after you've gotten someone to make conversation, eye contact is important. Throughout the conversation, continue making eye contact, side eyeing the person, and glancing them up and down. Keep up flirting with your eyes throughout your conversation. This can help convey sexual interest.[8]

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    Do not overdo it. While eye contact is key to attraction, being too enthusiastic can be off-putting. Try to avoid going overboard with eye contact.

    • Once you've initiated conversation with someone, glance away while he or she talking now and again. Do not be rude by glancing away to look at your phone or someone else. Just briefly glance to the left or right to avoid being overwhelming with eye contact.
    • You should strive to look at someone's face about three quarters of the time you're talking to that person. Keep your glances between one and seven seconds. This shows a genuine interest, which can be attractive, but does not overwhelm a potential partner with eye contact.
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    Use eyebrows.[9] Raising your eyebrows can be seductive. Raising your eyebrows conveys interest and recognition. When you're talking to someone, raise your eyebrows when conversation begins. This can increase your chance of seducing this person.

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    Avoid leering. The way you look at someone can effect your likelihood of seducing that person. Maintain level, steady eye contact when talking to someone rather than looking using the corner of your eyes. Side-eyeing can help with making initial eye contact. However, people tend to respond better to occasional direct eye contact during conversation rather than side-eyeing.

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    Glance the person up and down. On occasion, glance the object of your attraction up and down. This can help convey attraction.

    • You can also tell if a person is interested in you based on how they look at you. If someone glances at your hips and thighs there's a good chance they're interested in you.
    • When you're interested in someone, you can show this by eyeing their head and shoulders while they talk. This tends to convey attraction, which might help in seducing someone.
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    Try to intentionally lock eyes with the other person for a few seconds. That's a great to show that you're interested!

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      To seduce someone using only your eyes, be the one to initiate eye contact with the other person to show that you're confident. When you look at them, flash them a genuine smile so they know you're friendly and wouldn't mind being approached. If they smile back and seem interested, try glancing them up and down or giving them a seductive look. Don't stare for too long or you could make them feel uncomfortable. Instead, occasionally look back at them and smile to show them that you're still interested. To learn how to seduce someone with your eyes during a conversation, scroll down!

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